{"id":2320,"date":"2019-02-12T14:33:45","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T19:33:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.paracletepress.com\/?p=2320"},"modified":"2019-02-13T11:23:12","modified_gmt":"2019-02-13T16:23:12","slug":"happy-marriages-dont-just-happen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.paracletepress.com\/index.php\/happy-marriages-dont-just-happen\/","title":{"rendered":"Happy marriages don\u2019t just happen."},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s National Marriage Week! And we are celebrating with a $1.99 Kindle special (available here!<\/a>) of Jerry and Claudia Root\u2019s and Jeremy Rios\u2019 book,\u00a0Naked and Unashamed: a guide to the necessary work of Christian marriage.\u00a0<\/em>Enjoy the authors\u2019 preface to their practical and inspiring guide.<\/p>\n

Preface: The Purpose of this Book<\/strong><\/p>\n

This book exists because, despite the abundance of magazines, articles, and self-help volumes available, people continue to struggle with marriage.<\/p>\n

On the one hand, the cottage industry of wedding planners, consultants, Pinterest pages, and independent bloggers has shaped young hearts to dream and plan for the biggest day of their lives. The day is everything, and they will plan each element with precision, from flowers to cake decorations to party favors. Acting on this crafted desire, couples will spend an enormous amount of time and money preparing for the wedding. Ironically, they will spend little to no time or money in preparation for their marriage itself. The investment into the perfect day is all out of proportion with the investment into life together after <\/em>the day. At times it even seems as if people are more interested in getting<\/em> married than they are in staying<\/em> married. This book exists to help couples prepare for the rest of their life together.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it seems that too few couples comprehend the degree of work required to make a marriage successful. Divorce rates are clear evidence of this, but so also are the many married people who are in dire need of counseling and care, who persist in loneliness and difficulty, feeling ill-equipped to navigate the unforeseen difficulties of marriage. Many people hope one day to get married; few people seem to know what it really means to be <\/em>married. The truth of the matter is that happy marriages rarely just happen. In fact, the majority of the time they will require at least as much energy and preparation as is directed toward the grand celebration on the wedding day. This book exists to coach couples through strategies that will assist them to succeed.<\/p>\n

On the wedding day, a bride and groom will make a promise before God and the witness of their friends and family\u2014a promise to have and hold one another, in sickness and health, in wealth or poverty, until death. Sometimes these promises are uttered in a rush of devoted emotion, at the same time sometimes their demands are glibly considered; yet no couple (we trust!) sets out intentionally to fail. While no book can promise perfect success, the best we can do\u2014and this we hope to do\u2014is to offer hope and guidance to couples in preparation for marriage, to couples struggling in marriage, and possibly encouragement to couples thriving in marriage. Marriage, in point of fact, is a living, growing thing, and a resource such as this one hopes simply to provide a plumb to what is bent, a balm to what is broken, and an enrichment to what is thriving.<\/p>\n

If marriage is so difficult, and if the risks are so high, then it might be tempting to conclude that it is not worth bothering about. This is unsatisfying, chiefly because we are convinced that marriage\u2014with all its difficulties\u2014remains one of the best hopes for human happiness and fulfillment. A successful marriage is a thing of unprecedented and radiant beauty, and as G. K. Chesterton (a great believer in marriage) said \u201cIf a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.\u201d[i]<\/a> This book is targeted for any person who wishes, given the liabilities of marriage, to attempt to maximize its benefits and experience the fullness of its joys.<\/p>\n

Billy Bray, Welsh preacher and evangelist, hearing once about other people\u2019s trials of faith stood and exclaimed, \u201cWell, friends, I have been taking vinegar and honey, but, praise the Lord, I\u2019ve had the vinegar with a spoon<\/em>, and the honey with a ladle<\/em>.\u201d[ii]<\/a> Many couples may feel that in marriage they\u2019ve had honey by the teaspoon and vinegar by the ladle. As we said, no book can promise success, and yet the couple that commits to reading together, to learning together, to discussing together, to developing good habits together\u2014that couple will gain a significant advantage in the management and enjoyment of their common life. All marriages ought to begin with the best possible foundation. All existing marriages ought to have the courage to reexamine and correct their foundation as necessary. And, by God\u2019s grace, the honey will outweigh the vinegar beyond measure.<\/p>\n

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[i]<\/a> G. K. Chesterton, What\u2019s Wrong with the World<\/em> (London: Cassell and Company, Limited: 1910), 254.<\/p>\n

[ii]<\/a> Billy Bray, The King\u2019s Son<\/em> (London: Bible Christian Book-Room, 1874), 29.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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